Friday, January 30, 2009

Ursula Garnitz


Ursula Garnitz
May 3, 1933 - January 30, 2009

There are people in your world that simply make you smile when they enter the room. One of those people is Ursula Garnitz, someone that made me feel great and lifted my spirits whenever I was around her.

Today, she passed away with her loving daughter, son-in-law and grand-daughter by her side. She peacefully entered God's loving arms and heaven above is stronger for her presence. The flowers she will being tending to will brighten heaven with her touch.

While the natural world we live in will miss her dearly, we know that her love still peacefully lives within each of us. Thank you for being a person that always lifted others; thank you for being a caring person to others; thank you for being Ursula.
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Thursday, January 29, 2009

Job Loss - Now What

Your year is breezing along with expectation of more great things to come. You wake up feeling extra happy with the way things are going. The goodness of the day just seems to be spilling over as you enter your workplace. A cup of coffee in hand and focus on the tasks which lay before you.

Shortly after fully engaging in the work, the boss needs to meet with you. You know there is much to get done as you head off. This will most certainly put you behind, but you can make it up in the afternoon you tell yourself.

As you enter the room, your inner sense tells you something is wrong. Your outer shell puts up all defenses in anticipation. The company has decided to "Go in a new direction. Thank you for your services." Wait, did you just hear that correctly? The company you have given your heart and soul to is 'going a new direction!'

U.S. employers cut 2.6 million jobs in 2008, the most since 1945, pushing the unemployment rate up to 7.2 percent in December of 2008. As of the end of January 2009, the rate will most certainly be higher with recently reported job cuts. It is quite likely that double-digit unemployment rates are nearing.

The 'macro' environment of this economy is out of any one person's control. You can only concentrate on those things that you can effect. With sudden job loss, some people get generous severance packages, which are few and far between these days. Others may get a month while there are many that receive nothing.

And what is it exactly you can do when this happens to you? First, take a few hours to self-pity, cry, worry and maybe vent about the condition. Then you have to pick your self up and get on with the business of survival. Nothing will be achieved by holding onto the pain and frustration. It changes nothing, it doesn't make the former employer regret, it doesn't stop the bills and it only serves to keep you down.

Now take time to assess what your current financial state is. What are the bills that need to be paid monthly. Don't worry about the overall debt, focus at this point on the bill payments. Prioritize them according to survival; home, utilities, vehicle, food. Remember, if you are going to work, you need a place to live and a way to get to that job.

Look at ways to cut out all other spending. The Internet you may say is vital to job search but public libraries offer free Internet access all over this country. Cell phone, find ways to cut the bill to minimal service and lose the home phone. There are many other ways to cut your spending if you look hard enough.

A few words on cutting personal spending; economists and leaders say that is the worst thing you can do for this economy. If everyone cuts their personal spending, it worsens the problem. The thing is, it isn't your job to save the economy at this point. Bill collectors are not going to forgive easily non-payment of bills because you are doing your part to 'save the economy.' It becomes a point of personal survival. The greater economy will sort itself out eventually.

Now chart out a 6-month, 1-year and 5-year goal. Set out simple tangible goals for the 6-month goal; working in a stable job, salary enough to cover my reduced expenses. The 1-year goals should contain items such as how to start reducing your debt load, ways to start you on a course for the long term goals. The 5-year goals are the vision of where you want to be; new home, more reliable vehicle, new love, job advancement, etc.

The locations are laid out in front of you with these goals although no roads exist showing you how to get there. But each is a definable item and all of them look overwhelming. Reduce your focus now back to the immediate; job searching. This is your most crucial goal. The rest such as paying bills are irrelevant if you have no money, so your energy, some call it 'worry', should be on finding a job.

There are many good resources on the Internet, simply walking into businesses and applying in person and keep networking with people as much as you can. Pride should not be an obstacle at this point. Everyone has a piece of fear in them regarding job loss. So most will do what they can to help you in little and sometimes big ways.

In ending, I do not pretend to believe any of this is simple. In fact it is hard and will test your emotions and resolve. My word to everyone is 'faith', have faith in yourself, have faith in others and more importantly, have faith in God's ability to help guide you. I normally stay away from religion in my articles, but there is something to be said for trusting your faith.

A job or change in your life can be traumatic, whether it be job loss, divorce, a death of someone close, but it doesn't need to spell the end of things. It spells the beginning of something new. Trust in your abilities, have faith that you were given those abilities to succeed and you will.

Through this dark and stormy night
Faith beholds a feeble light
Up the blackness streaking;
Knowing God's own time is best,
In a patient hope I rest
For the full day-breaking
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- John Greenleaf Whittier
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Monday, January 26, 2009

Devoted Lives

Since the passing of my mother in October of 2008, I have been searching for something. A piece of understanding about the relationship of two people being married for nearly 60 years. It is not a burden upon my spirit but a yearning to know what it means.

In the search for that meaning of their life together, it occurs to me that it can serve as a lesson. A lesson of devotion, commitment and love that two people can achieve. I would read poems and inspirational words from many different sources. Words of Austen and Dickinson to Shakespeare and Whitman, with many different verse in between.

To my surprise I found the words in the notes of Thomas Jefferson. He and his wife Martha were married for a mere 10 years, but their bond was one that only two people can understand fully. As Martha Jefferson lay dying in September 1782, she began to write out sentimental words to express a sense of the situation. She wrote, copying from her husband's own literary book, lines originally adapted from Laurence Sterne's Tristram Shandy.

It is these words that complete my own parent's relationship of 59 years. One that I choose to remember and move on from. It will guide me in my father's remaining days and my own.

"Time wastes too fast: every letter I trace tells me with what rapidity life follows my pen, the days and hours of it are flying over heads like clouds of (a) windy day never to return -- more every thing presses on --"

At this point she could write no more, but the words continue in Thomas' own handwriting.

"and every time I kiss thy hand to bid adieu, every absence which follows it, are preludes to that eternal separation which we are shortly to make!"
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Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Running Dream


Our life is filled with pursuits of dreams or visions of things that we want or want to accomplish. We turn those pursuits into reality when we turn the dream or vision into goals. The goal being something defined and real that we can measure.

We then head out in haste, racing towards achieving the goal. We move fast and then seem to run out of energy or ambition. We find ourselves running at the pace of a 5K race when in fact the race is a marathon. With nearly 42 kilometers to run, we find self-doubt in completing the goal.

It is in those defining moments, here at the building near the crossroads that you can choose to quit. You will leave your tattered dreams tacked to the walls of the room inside along with others long forgotten. Dreams that will always remain dreams.

But in that defining moment you can also decide to step through the door of choice and continue the race. You will make adjustment along the way, adjusting the pace of your pursuit. The building of lost dreams will be left far behind and as you near your goal, that building will have completely disappeared along with its disappointments.
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Tuesday, January 20, 2009

Simple Things

"The best things in life are nearest: Breath in your nostrils, light in your eyes, flowers at your feet, duties at your hand, the path of right just before you. Then do not grasp at the stars, but do life's plain, common work as it comes, certain that daily duties and daily bread are the sweetest things in life."
-Robert Louis Stevenson



Life can have its fill of trouble and complication, but it is filled so much more with the simple things. I can remember my youth and imagine the youth of my parents. There were and remain those pieces to our lives that are enjoyable and loving in memory.

But those things can be found, in the modern world of today. In fifty years, those same images shown in the video will be those that you created. Simple memories, loving memories that gave your life meaning and purpose.

Enjoy the simple things of today, enjoy the simple memories of yesterday and live with joy in your heart for the 'simple things in life'.
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Friday, January 16, 2009

Sweeping Streets


I'm ending the week with two great quotes that I like to repeat once or twice a year. They speak to much of what I believe and try to conduct my life. Read from them, be inspired by them and live your life by them.

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"If a man is called to be a streetsweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music, or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, here lived a great streetsweeper who did his job well."

Martin Luther King Jr.

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The longer I live
The more I realize the impact of
Attitude on life.
Attitude, to me, is more important
Than the past,
Than education,
Than money,
Than circumstances,
Than failures,
Than success,
Than what other people
Think or say or do.

It is more important than
Appearance,
Giftedness or skill.
It will make or break
An organization,
A school, a home.

The remarkable thing is
We have a choice every day
Regarding the attitude
We will embrace for that day.
We cannot change our past.
We cannot change the fact that
People will act in a certain way.
We cannot change the inevitable.

The only thing we can do
Is play the string we have.
And that is our attitude.

I am convinced that life is
10 percent what happens to me and
90 percent how I react to it.
And so it is with you.

Charles Swindell
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Thursday, January 15, 2009

Happiness

"Realize that true happiness lies within you. Waste no time and effort searching for peace and contentment and joy in the world outside. Remember that there is no happiness in having or in getting, but only in giving. Reach out. Share. Smile. Hug. Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself." -Og Mandino
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Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Blogging


"The first thing you need to decide when you build your blog is what you want to accomplish with it, and what it can do if successful." -Ron Dawson

Today is just a chance to poke a little bit of fun at myself in all this realm of seriousness. Blogging is a great opportunity for people to make a difference, to enlighten others and for some to simply waste space and time on the internet.

My opportunity is to help one or several people with encouragement and advice. I am not always right or 'on the mark' with all that I say. Yet my belief is that it starts with one person taking the time to impact the life of another in a positive way. The wave started will eventually impact many others.

Begin a new wave this year by choosing to help at least one other person. I will keep blogging away, share my thoughts with others, share your thoughts with others.
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Tuesday, January 06, 2009

Time For A Mentor - Time For A Friend


So I finally get around to commenting about a person that I hold in my heart as a great mentor and a great friend. A person that I've worked with for a number of years retired this past year and quite frankly I miss having him around.

Those that read this will know that he and I worked in the same facility for a long time. But over the past several years he has worked in our Boston location while I remained here in Atlanta. Knowing he was there and I could ring his extension made things very comfortable.

His name is Art and I owe a lot of my career to him. We had both worked at this same company for a number of years but never knew each other. I moved into the Atlanta area to take a job in technical support. It is here that we met and he took me 'under his wing' and taught me a great deal.

It is that mentoring spirit in him that says so much about a person. It is something you can do in your life with others as well. By taking a portion of your time and giving your wisdom, advice or encouragement to another is a great gift to give.

My own life was changed by his time shared. In his retirement I hope that he finds relaxation and peace. Along with his wonderful wife Pamela, there will be many years and much more time.
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Monday, January 05, 2009

Creating Habit

A brand new year is well under way now and so many of us have set forth resolutions to accomplish this year. A large percentage will make a commitment to join a gym and working out. A survey sponsored by Weight Watchers found that 45 percent of Americans say losing weight will be their New Year's resolution for 2009 and 97 percent of those resolved to do so will need assistance to keep that resolution. The more telling statistic is that about 70 percent of new clients drop within a couple of months.

There will be many other types of resolutions; all well intentioned and for the betterment of one's life or surroundings. Setting goals and starting your walk towards change is a fantastic way to start the year. But the change doesn't come without a cost. It can be a difficult road and 'instant gratification' is what many people want.

A friend of mine, Dean Sweetman has this saying which goes, "conception is fun but birthing is hard!" An amazing but very applicable statement to make in the context of trying to accomplish things in life. Much of what you will attempt in your new year resolution is supported by initial enthusiasm and excitement. You will be the first one in the gym using all of the various equipment.

The first week you are there every day, the pain is great but you know progress is being made. The weekend comes and you take a day or two off. The following week the stiffness is just a bit much so you tell yourself you should back off to only two or three days a week. Gradually you find yourself going less and less; finding more and more excuses not to go.

Long term commitment and 'habit' and are the keys to success in your new year's goals. As Dean said, the excitement of change in the new year is fun; the continued commitment to achieving the change is hard.

When you create habits in your life, they will become automatic. This is true for bad habits as well as good habits. Smoking was not an instant thing because you developed bad habits that will take time to remove from your life. Becoming more healthy will take time as well along with any of the other many changes you may want to make.

Be excited, be joyous that you are doing something great; yet be ready for the work it will take to create good habits in your life. Be ready to see your goal getting closer as you continue to work and achieve. Eventually you will get there and it will have seemed so automatic. Have a great and prosperous 2009!