When attitude is in short supply around you, do you downwardly spiral towards the negative? Do you enter a room and instantly look for others to lift you? It can be a very difficult thing to bring yourself up before entering a room of people or event. It can be very easy to take your issues and pass them along to those you meet.
It is a battle we all have to wage in putting ourselves in order. As a person of great attitude, you lift yourself above placing your issues on others. The rocks you carry in your wagon are not for others. They are for laying a smooth path for others to follow.
But there are many that are great and positive folks when things are going good. Yet the times when things are not going so well, will come into a room of people and instinctively try to unload their problems on others. This doesn't resolve your issues, it doesn't lift others around you and it certainly doesn't reflect the success in your life you are trying to achieve.
When you find that a situation is bringing you down, you have to find something or a place to go into that will turn that around. For some it may be grabbing some ice cream, careful with this one on your weight. It could be taking a walk in the park, a long hot shower or sitting quietly in meditation.
For me it is putting on headphones and listening to classical music. It focuses my attention on what may be bothering me, what may be bringing me down. My goal is to bring my attitude back to a level that can impact others. This I do so that when I enter that room of people or event, my attitude is on a higher level.
Yourself can achieve this same thing. You will begin to find that little by little, when the downward spiral begins it can be caught earlier. At first you sink deep and it takes work to bring yourself back up. As time goes along and you find ways or that 'place' to bring you up - you will catch yourself sooner. The sinking will not be nearly as deep and be able to develop methods that can quickly right yourself. A positive attitude that flows in and through you will have a great impact on others, including yourself.
“Take control of your consistent emotions and begin to consciously and deliberately reshape your daily experience of life.” - Anthony Robbins
Saturday, February 04, 2006
Thursday, February 02, 2006
Goodness In Return
The articles I provide here are truly from my heart and I try not to ever simply pass along pre-written stories or internet stories. But this particular one is one that I wanted to share as it brings out a point I try to make from time to time.
Having a great attitude and serving others will normally bring goodness upon you. The story below emphasizes that point regardless if the story itself is true or not.
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He almost didn't see the old lady, stranded on the side of the road, but even in the dim light of day, he could see she needed help. So he pulled up in front of her Mercedes and got out. His Pontiac was still sputtering when he approached her. Even with the smile on his face, she was worried. No one had stopped to help for the last hour or so. Was he going to hurt her? He didn't look safe; he looked poor and hungry.
He could see that she was frightened, standing out there in the cold. He knew how she felt. It was that chill which only fear can put in you. He said, "I'm here to help you, ma'am. Why don't you wait in the car where it's warm? By the way, my name is Bryan Anderson."
Well, all she had was a flat tire, but for an old lady, that was bad enough. Bryan crawled under the car looking for a place to put the jack, skinning his knuckles a time or two. S oon he was able to change the tire. But he had to get dirty and his hands hurt. As he was tightening up the lug nuts, she rolled down the window and began to talk to him.
She told him that she was from St. Louis and was only just passing through. She couldn't thank him enough for coming to her aid. Bryan just smiled as he closed her trunk. The lady asked how much she owed him. Any amount would have been all right with her. She already imagined all the awful things that could have happened had he not stopped.
Bryan never thought twice about being paid. This was not a job to him. This was helping someone in need and God knows there were plenty who had given him a hand in the past. He had lived his whole life that way and it never occurred to him to act any other way.
He told her that if she really wanted to pay him back, the next time she saw someone who needed help, she could give that person the assistance they needed and Bryan added, "And think of me." He waited until she started her car and drove off. It had been a cold and depressing day, but he felt good a he headed for home, disappearing into the twilight.
A few miles down the road the lady saw a small cafe. She went in to grab a bite to eat and take the chill off before she made the last leg of her trip home. It was a dingy looking restaurant. Outside were two old gas pumps. The whole scene was unfamiliar to her. The waitress came over and brought a clean towel to wipe her wet hair. she had a sweet smile, one that even being on her feet for the whole day couldn't erase.
The lady noticed the waitress was nearly eight months pregnant, but she never let the strain and aches change her attitude. The old lady wondered how someone who had so little could be so giving to a stranger. Then she remembered Bryan. After the lady finished her meal, she paid with a hundred dollar bill. The waitress quickly went to get change for her hundred dollar bill, but the old lady had slipped right out the door. She was gone by the time the waitress came back.
The waitress wondered where the lady could be. Then she noticed something written on the napkin. There were tears in her eyes when she read what the lady wrote: "You don't owe me anything. I have been there too. Somebody once helped me out, the way I'm helping you. If you really want to pay me back, here is what you do: Do not let this chain of love end with you."
Under the napkin were four more $100 bills. Well, there were tables to clear, sugar bowls to fill, and people to serve, but the waitress made it through another day. That night when she got home from work and climbed into bed, she was thinking about the money and what the lady had written. How could the lady have known how much she and her husband needed it?
With the baby due next month, it was going to be hard. She knew how worried her husband was and as he lay sleeping next to her, she gave him a soft kiss and whispered soft and low, "Everything's gonna be all right. I love you, Bryan Anderson."
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There are stories through out the ages that these things can and do happen. When goodness flows from you, when you pass along kindness, the reward you receive will come back in many different ways. Call it what you wish, having a positive attitude and goodness to pass along will multiply your life. Be of a giving mind and heart.
Having a great attitude and serving others will normally bring goodness upon you. The story below emphasizes that point regardless if the story itself is true or not.
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He almost didn't see the old lady, stranded on the side of the road, but even in the dim light of day, he could see she needed help. So he pulled up in front of her Mercedes and got out. His Pontiac was still sputtering when he approached her. Even with the smile on his face, she was worried. No one had stopped to help for the last hour or so. Was he going to hurt her? He didn't look safe; he looked poor and hungry.
He could see that she was frightened, standing out there in the cold. He knew how she felt. It was that chill which only fear can put in you. He said, "I'm here to help you, ma'am. Why don't you wait in the car where it's warm? By the way, my name is Bryan Anderson."
Well, all she had was a flat tire, but for an old lady, that was bad enough. Bryan crawled under the car looking for a place to put the jack, skinning his knuckles a time or two. S oon he was able to change the tire. But he had to get dirty and his hands hurt. As he was tightening up the lug nuts, she rolled down the window and began to talk to him.
She told him that she was from St. Louis and was only just passing through. She couldn't thank him enough for coming to her aid. Bryan just smiled as he closed her trunk. The lady asked how much she owed him. Any amount would have been all right with her. She already imagined all the awful things that could have happened had he not stopped.
Bryan never thought twice about being paid. This was not a job to him. This was helping someone in need and God knows there were plenty who had given him a hand in the past. He had lived his whole life that way and it never occurred to him to act any other way.
He told her that if she really wanted to pay him back, the next time she saw someone who needed help, she could give that person the assistance they needed and Bryan added, "And think of me." He waited until she started her car and drove off. It had been a cold and depressing day, but he felt good a he headed for home, disappearing into the twilight.
A few miles down the road the lady saw a small cafe. She went in to grab a bite to eat and take the chill off before she made the last leg of her trip home. It was a dingy looking restaurant. Outside were two old gas pumps. The whole scene was unfamiliar to her. The waitress came over and brought a clean towel to wipe her wet hair. she had a sweet smile, one that even being on her feet for the whole day couldn't erase.
The lady noticed the waitress was nearly eight months pregnant, but she never let the strain and aches change her attitude. The old lady wondered how someone who had so little could be so giving to a stranger. Then she remembered Bryan. After the lady finished her meal, she paid with a hundred dollar bill. The waitress quickly went to get change for her hundred dollar bill, but the old lady had slipped right out the door. She was gone by the time the waitress came back.
The waitress wondered where the lady could be. Then she noticed something written on the napkin. There were tears in her eyes when she read what the lady wrote: "You don't owe me anything. I have been there too. Somebody once helped me out, the way I'm helping you. If you really want to pay me back, here is what you do: Do not let this chain of love end with you."
Under the napkin were four more $100 bills. Well, there were tables to clear, sugar bowls to fill, and people to serve, but the waitress made it through another day. That night when she got home from work and climbed into bed, she was thinking about the money and what the lady had written. How could the lady have known how much she and her husband needed it?
With the baby due next month, it was going to be hard. She knew how worried her husband was and as he lay sleeping next to her, she gave him a soft kiss and whispered soft and low, "Everything's gonna be all right. I love you, Bryan Anderson."
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There are stories through out the ages that these things can and do happen. When goodness flows from you, when you pass along kindness, the reward you receive will come back in many different ways. Call it what you wish, having a positive attitude and goodness to pass along will multiply your life. Be of a giving mind and heart.
Monday, January 30, 2006
Your Visions Become Reality
“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.” - Tony RobbinsOver the weekend I heard one of my favorite speakers, Phil Pringle. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phil_and_Chris_Pringle) He has a very easy way about him that translates into a lot of energy. He brings out the possibilities that can exist for anyone and more importantly, for you. So how can this be when so many people never seem to reach their potential.
It isn't about a 'pre-determined' potential that many people think they have. The reason is that we don't put enough belief in visions and goals. Every one of us has potential to reach great and wonderful goals. Each of us even have the unlimited ability to dream great visions. Yet again why is it that we can never seem to achieve them.
According to Phil Pringle and many other experts, the first mistake we make is that we fail to write down our dreams, visions and goals. Failing to do this one important thing will hinder any movement. Hinder you from making a 'first step'. Remember that in order to make change in your life, you have to take a first step.
By writing down what it is you wish to achieve, you can now physically visualize the goal. It serves as a first step in making it real. Then continue to remind yourself of the goal, promote it to yourself, tell others about it. Motivation will self generate from this vision to bring you closer in achieving it.
And the wonderful thing about it, by doing so you've made a move. You are not sitting there wondering and wishing but actually doing something. It will lead you to your goal and may very well lead you to greater achievements. But not until you write it down will it ever become real.
Dream your dreams, allow your visions to flow and let them become goals in life. You have the potential to make those visions a reality. You have that potential regardless of circumstance. Believe in yourself because I certainly do.
Saturday, January 28, 2006
Tis Better To Have Loved
"Happiness comes more from loving than being loved; and often when our affection seems wounded it is is only our vanity bleeding. To love, and to be hurt often, and to love again--this is the brave and happy life." - J.E. Buchrose
The thing about this life we live is that we are always experiencing it as it unfolds before us. Whether it is in love as quoted above or in everyday movement in what we do. You keep moving forward. To persevere and change for the better as we learn that which works and that which doesn't. Always learning from our past and not regretting it.
The old adage from Tennyson in which he says, 'tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" should ring true for everyone. Life will have "bad experiences", but look at the larger of those two words. "Experiences" are that, lessons learned that if viewed in a positive light, you will understand that you have learned valuable lessons from them. This in turn makes those experiences wonderful ones. Ones not to regret but to cherish as stones laid out to form your life's path.
I myself have had times of hurt and pain, which have taken time to heal. In the light of day I can see that they shaped who I am. It has also placed me in a better position within life, one that only keeps getting better. I view the past with respect and admiration for something accomplished. For the lives of those that I passed through, I truly hope that I've made a positive impact on them.
As all of us move towards our future, take the past experiences as a foundation for moving forward. Be strong in the idea that with that knowledge, you can shape your future. To steal the phrase, "tis better to have lived, then to have not lived at all."
The thing about this life we live is that we are always experiencing it as it unfolds before us. Whether it is in love as quoted above or in everyday movement in what we do. You keep moving forward. To persevere and change for the better as we learn that which works and that which doesn't. Always learning from our past and not regretting it.
The old adage from Tennyson in which he says, 'tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" should ring true for everyone. Life will have "bad experiences", but look at the larger of those two words. "Experiences" are that, lessons learned that if viewed in a positive light, you will understand that you have learned valuable lessons from them. This in turn makes those experiences wonderful ones. Ones not to regret but to cherish as stones laid out to form your life's path.
I myself have had times of hurt and pain, which have taken time to heal. In the light of day I can see that they shaped who I am. It has also placed me in a better position within life, one that only keeps getting better. I view the past with respect and admiration for something accomplished. For the lives of those that I passed through, I truly hope that I've made a positive impact on them.
As all of us move towards our future, take the past experiences as a foundation for moving forward. Be strong in the idea that with that knowledge, you can shape your future. To steal the phrase, "tis better to have lived, then to have not lived at all."
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