Influencing Yourself

Here we are into the first day of a holiday week here in the U.S. Our independence holiday is on Wednesday, so many people have taken days off and most work schedules are relaxed. There are those of us that are working all week with the holiday itself off. Yet there are many people that will be working on the holiday, as happens around the world on holidays of many kinds. The wheels of business must continue to turn and it takes people to make it happen.

As my week begins, it makes me think of what impact each of us can have upon our own lives as well as others. My friend and pastor, Dean Sweetman recently said, "what you think about is what you are. What you read about is what influences you." Pretty simple logic but it is something we tend to forget.

Everyday we have the ability to influence our own lives by what we choose to read, watch and the people we associate with. Our own lives are ours to choose how to live and to determine those influences. While we have to exist in a world where there are thousands of positive and negative influences, each of us have the power of choice.

I have had people state to me that there is no choice in circumstance. To a degree, circumstance is the unpredictable nature of life itself. But how you react to it, how you position yourself to overcome negative circumstance is the choice you make. You can remain entrenched in negative influences or choose to move out of it.

Placing yourself around other people that are more supportive in nature, changing your reading habits to something more uplifting and choosing positive words will move you towards overcoming the negative. None of this means that you shield yourself from reality or hiding from the bad things. What it means is teaching yourself how to overcome adversity and prevent yourself from being dragged down.

A week like this allows a quieter atmosphere to perform your job and to also take time to think of new ways. The seven minutes of thought for yourself, to develop ways to encourage yourself and to change any negative habits...use those minutes to influence yourself.

Teen Driving Safety

Driving while young, a worrisome thought for most parents as their children attempt this right of passage. All of us have gone through this and most have successfully navigated the learning to drive process. There are those that some would argue still need to 'learn how to drive'.

But any humor aside, there is concern over the amount of training given to young drivers today. As Rose Rougeau of the American Automobile Association says, "It's clear from this analysis that young drivers' lack of experience on the road is a major traffic safety issue." Some of the sobering statistics about teen driving are;

• The number one cause of death for 15-20 year olds is car collisions.
• This age group makes up 7% of licensed drivers, 14% of fatalities, and 20% of all reported collisions.
• In 2004, 7,386 people were killed in crashes involving young drivers ages 16-20 (National Highway Traffic Safety Administration, or NHTSA, 2005)
• 3,523 young drivers ages 16-20 were killed in 2004. (NHTSA, 2005)
• 53% of teen driver deaths occur on weekends.
• Nearly two-thirds of teen passenger vehicle occupants killed were unrestrained. (NHTSA, 2003)
• Forty-one percent (41%) of teenage motor vehicle deaths in 2003 occurred between the hours of 9:00 p.m. and 6:00 a.m. (IIHS, 2004)
• Staying up late puts teen drivers at high risk for automobile collisions due to drowsiness.
• Teens are more likely than any other age group to be involved in a single vehicle crash.

Very tough statistics to think about but what do we do? Mandatory drivers education courses in the public schools. Driver and traffic safety education began as a concept in 1928 as part of a doctoral thesis by Albert W. Whitney whom argued that since so many high school students were learning to drive cars, schools had a responsibility to include driver education and safety instruction in the curriculum.

I am a proponent of schools providing this training to better prepare our teens to be better and safer drivers. An organization called Drivers Edge provides training around the country as a free service. They are able to do so due to corporate sponsorships, but your donations and support can help keep it this and help them to expand.

Founder of the organization, ex-race car driver Jeff Payne provides the following tips:

1. For your teen's first car, you shouldn't compromise safety to save money. And don't encourage buying a flashy hot rod, which invites high-speed driving.
2. Even the best kids can make poor decisions, and many are afraid to call their parents when they've had too much to drink. Stress this: "You can call us anytime. We won't ask questions."
3. When she goes out, know her destination, and tell her she needs to call you if she heads to a new location.
4. For six months after getting a license, make sure your teen drives alone. Having friends in the car, especially if they're rowdy, is a dangerous distraction.

Do what you can to keep your teen safe, give them the necessary tools to drive safely and remind them of what it takes to remain safe.

You Influence Others

Have you ever thought about what type of influence you have on people around you? Or are you the type of person that simply attempts to go about your daily life not wanting to interact with others. Such as a quote goes, "If anything is certain, it is that change is certain. The world we are planning for today will not exist in this form tomorrow." (Philip Crosby)

Even as you try to not involve yourself, as you try to live a quiet and uninterrupted life, you still impact people that pass in and out of your daily life. Your influence can be that of Ebenezer Scrooge before his self revelation. Or you can be that person that saw life for what it was, a gift to be shared with others. In this well known Christmas tale of change and easing of a hard heart, both the old and new Ebenezer impacted others with his attitude.

Your own attitudes and thoughts can effect those around you. I have seen those that simply trudge along. There always seems to be that look upon their face that says "when will this all be over", a sad way to live in my mind. Each of us have been given a gift to share with others. Of course there will be tough times and a certain amount of bad things that happen. But life is that way, it isn't perfect.

Change your life, you attitude and impact in a positive way those around you. That goodness will be reflected back upon you in ways you won't expect. Be a person of change, be a person of impact.

Passion In Life

It can be a busy time trying to get back into the swing of things after being on the road. Coming back to speed with the pace of your home life and the flow of every day living. This period is what I call "becoming normal again."

But even with all of my travels and issues that come with it, I can't get enough of it. The passion that drives me isn't so much the travel as it is the relationships and interaction with other people along the way.

The same thing holds true for you in your daily life. What is the passion that moves you to enjoy and take hold of every day? An article in Prevention Magazine by Ardath Rodale talks about what feeds this passion.

Read the article by her to put in into context, but I've included some of her statements here. Just find what your passion is and feed it as often as you can. In turn, your passion will spill over into other people's lives.

Enthusiasm: Genuine enthusiasm can only be sustained if you are truly passionate about something. Find that passion, embrace it, and take action.

"Dreams are the soul pantry. Keep it well stocked, and your soul will never hunger."
--Shirley Feeney from the TV show Laverne & Shirley.

Perseverance: Don't let others set limits for you. If people say it can't be done, it usually means that it can't be done by their rules.

Intuition is essential: Shakti Gawain says that as you learn to live from your intuition, you give up making decisions with your head and act moment by moment on what you feel, allowing things to unfold as you go.

Explore new horizons: Open your eyes to the wonder of the great outdoors and eagerly seek solutions to all challenges that come your way.

Affirmation: See yourself already being a winner. The power of positive thinking fuels success.

Stillness stokes the fire of a passionate life: It rejuvenates our minds and bodies and surrounds us with peace. We need quiet moments of beauty, contemplation, and thankfulness for new growth and expanding vision.