Monday, December 12, 2011

To Wear Armor


"The time to take counsel of your fears is before you make an important battle decision. That's the time to listen to every fear you can imagine! When you have collected all the facts and fears and made your decision, turn off all your fears and go ahead!" -George S. Patton

Each of us face the worry or anxiety when preparing for big events. It could be that presentation at work, meeting the in-laws, steadying oneself for a job interview. We become nervous and the butterflies in our stomach begin to float about. All the while, we are preparing to do battle with our fears. Having the worry or anxiety doesn't help any.

But the preparation must go on. We must collect all of our fears and deal with them. One-by-one we slay them as we march towards the real fight in which we will succeed. Success though is only found if we defeat the fears first.

On a recent business trip to London, UK, I had an afternoon free of any meetings. It is during these times that I like to take the opportunity to take short visits to museums or other places of interest. Near to my hotel was the Victoria and Albert Museum in South Kensington.

It is the world's largest museum of decorative arts and design, that displays a permanent collection of over 4.5 million objects. It was named after Prince Albert and Queen Victoria and was founded in 1852.

As I walked through, I came upon a collection of battle armor and weapons. While old and antiquated from my perspective, they were marvels of their time. These were the weapons that men took into battle. They were used to conquer fear and to fight oppression. In some cases they were used for the wrong purposes. But they were the tools used in those times.


I am not suggesting that you take up weapons to fight your fears. What I am suggesting is that we wage war daily against fears that bind us. The battle to overcome that which is keeping us from success must be dealt with. We have many different tools from which to draw from and use.

And there are plenty of resources out there you can use to figure out which tools will work for you. Some of the tips I have come across are;

1. Take time out. Step back, take a breath and relax.
2. What’s the worst that can happen? Don't make the fear larger then it really is.
3. Expose yourself to the fear. Confront it, see what it really is.
4. Welcome the worst. See number two.
5. Get real. Knowledge can have a crushing effect upon fear.
6. Don’t expect perfection. Nothing is perfect and neither is the fear.
7. Visualise. See number one.
8. Talk about it. Discuss the fear with others.
9. Go back to basics. A good sleep, good meal and a walk are often the best cures.
10. Reward yourself. When you slay one dragon, bask in the victory and treat yourself before moving onto the next fire-breathing fear.

Remember that the fear is inside of us, not some army that needs to be defeated. It is not some monster of epic proportion awaiting us on the other side of the door. No, fear is a menacing thing that resides inside of us.


Gird yourself for battle in order to defeat the fear inside of you. Become the victor over those fears and lay them wasted along the roadside. There will be success in the end.

Stay inspired my friends.

Friday, December 09, 2011

Love is Five


"And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love." -1 Corinthians 13:13

According to Wikipedia, love is an emotion of strong affection and personal attachment.

[1] In philosophical context, love is a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection. Love is central to many religions, as in the Christian phrase, "God is love" or Agape in the Canonical gospels.

[2] Love may also be described as actions towards others (or oneself) based on compassion, or as actions towards others based on affection.

[3] In English, love refers to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from pleasure ("I loved that meal") to interpersonal attraction ("I love my partner").

[4] "Love" may refer specifically to the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love, to the sexual love of eros, to the emotional closeness of familial love, or the platonic love that defines friendship, to the profound oneness or devotion of religious love.


So here we have a wide and divergent use and meaning of the word love. When you put this into the context of every day human life, the complexity can only grow. We search for it, we try to understand it, we try to capture what love is in our life.

In a new book set to come out soon, the complex nature of what love is gets explained in simple to understand terms. The book "Love Is" will explain to you what love is in four parts. It will help you find meaning to love in your life and how powerful love is in your life.

Love is ...

Thursday, December 08, 2011

Love Is Four


"The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well." -Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

Unconditional love is a term that means to love someone regardless of one's actions or beliefs. It is a concept comparable to true love, a term which is more frequently used to describe love between lovers. By contrast, unconditional love is frequently used to describe love between family members, comrades in arms and between others in highly committed relationships.

Unconditional love also begins with understanding God's love for us and loving ourselves. In understanding that kind of love, we allow the feeling to generate within us and then we can share it to everyone and everything around us. That which we send out, returns to us in greater measure.

Love is not something to hold only inside, hidden away and saved for a rainy day. Love is meant to be given unconditionally, which in turn makes room for more love to fill our lives. Love is ...

Wednesday, December 07, 2011

Love Is Three


Of course if you like your kids, if you love them from the moment they begin, you yourself begin all over again, in them, with them, and so there is something more to the world again.” -William Saroyan

Loving someone and being loved brings happiness into our lives. In our life there are many different loves that we have. You have the love of your spouse or partner. There are your parents, your family and children, or your best friend.

We all want and need love, it is an essential part of the human race. With love, we help each other, cooperate with each other, and reaffirm each other. And when love brings a man and a woman together, inevitably that love will create a family.

Family is a basic building block of our society. It is a community of life and love, that is intended to protect each family member and to communicate love. It gives you your identity and background, and a sense of belonging.

Within the family you are able to share each members daily experiences, and give life meaning. It is where you celebrate birthdays, holidays, and those important days in our life. It provides us with an opportunity to grow in virtue, love, generosity, and patience. You also learn that forgiveness is a key piece to being in a family.

And what started all of this?

Why of course it all started with love. It is sustained with love. It remains forever with love. Love is ...