Wednesday, March 05, 2014
“In depression . . . faith in deliverance, in ultimate restoration, is absent. The pain is unrelenting, and what makes the condition intolerable is the foreknowledge that no remedy will come -- not in a day, an hour, a month, or a minute. . . . It is hopelessness even more than pain that crushes the soul.” ~ William Styron
Wow, pretty depressing isn't it? It is a feeling of hopelessness that can consume us at different moments in our lives. We have lost a job, a marriage or direction in life.
When you reach this level of hopelessness, you feel your goals are unachievable and start to give up on them.
The idea of giving up itself feeds into your feelings because now you begin to feel you are a failure. It is a vicious cycle we put ourselves into. We begin to focus more and more on the problem or problems. As we do, the more helpless we feel as our spirit spirals into the ground.
The first thing to know is that there is no such thing as hopelessness.
Hopelessness is only a state of mind that we allow ourselves to get trapped into. There is always hope. You can back away and stop pounding your head against the wall. You can re-evalutate by stepping back.
More importantly, stop focusing on the problem...focus on the solution.
If we spend all of our time firmly fixed upon the problem, the hopelessness trap has us. But if we take those energies and focus on a solution, any solution; then we will give rise to new hope.
So stop spiraling into the hopelessness trap.
Step back from the situation and quit looking at the problem. Turn and exert your energy (or what is left of it) towards the solution. Pretty soon you will find hope creeping back into possibility. Pretty soon you will find a solution appearing on the horizon.
Lastly, look at the empty chair next to you. The chair might look empty, but think of it as opportunity. Opportunity that someone will come along, sit down and enter your life; change your life. Opportunity that can provide a little spark of encouragement and small measure of hope for you to grab hold of.
Remember, hopelessness is real only if we allow it to be.
Stay inspired my friends!