What Did You Say

"No one would talk much in society, if he knew how often he misunderstands others." - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

So often it happens, we say something and others misunderstand us. From that first step into conversation, things can go from good to bad. Hurt feelings, disagreement and at the extreme end, wars can occur.

There is an example that was relayed to me by a friend. It is a story of near misunderstanding that could have led to embarrassment or worse a business loss. A business man was traveling in China developing plans for a new project. With most of the formal meetings taken place already, the real business was to take place over a meal.

This happens in many cultures such that business gets sealed at those dinner engagement. It is the informal nature of 'breaking bread' with another person that gives you a deeper understanding or trust.

But when language barriers exist, misunderstanding can take place.

As happened with this person, his English was good but certainly not his Chinese. His interpreter had a heavy accent and did his best to keep the conversation and translation flowing.

When each dish is brought out, sometimes it could be seen what type of food was before him. Other dishes were more difficult to discern. In these situations, when food is offered, it is typically not a good idea to turn down at least the 'tasting' of each dish.

One dish was brought out and the interpreter did his best to explain this more difficult translation. He called it (pardon the verbiage), "penis wrapped in vegetable wrap."

At this point, what are you going to do?

You see, not much of an animal is wasted in Asian cooking and western observers may shudder at what is actually very good food. Yet making the wrong decision could cause a problem.

Do you refuse and storm away in disgust? Or do you boldly go forward and try the cuisine because they have not steered you wrong yet? This time, maybe you simply give it the benefit of doubt and press forward.

The businessman just smiled, took the food, ate it and said, "oh, peanuts wrapped in vegetable wrap!" The evening moved on without any further incident. The business deal was sealed and the business partnership has grown stronger.

Misunderstanding can occur daily, you will feel offended and hurt at times.

In the majority of these instances, it is due to a communication problem between two people. One did not explain themselves clearly or you did not listen properly. All of this is simply a symptom of two people not fully understanding the other.

Throughout your day, give others the benefit of doubt and ask again, this time listening more closely, with greater care in understanding. Boldly go forward and find your way through the misunderstanding. Life will be better for you and those involved.

Stay inspired my friends!