Why Oslo

"I hate mankind, for I think myself one of the best of them, and I know how bad I am." -Joseph Baretti, quoted by James Boswell, 1766

Giuseppe Marc'Antonio Baretti, an Italian-born writer born at Turin whom was to be a lawyer if his father had his way. But Joseph, as he became known during his years in England, would become a literary critic and author of two influential language-translation dictionaries.

While in England, he was assaulted on the street and he stabbed the assailant with a fruit knife he carried. This would be common to the idea of carrying a pocket knife today. The assailant died and Baretti was tried for murder, but acquitted; several people of renown giving testimony in his defense.

During the time, many people jumped to a conclusion of Joseph's brutal attack upon the murdered man. The uproar of the public over this Italian born man forced the hand of local law enforcement. He was guilty of being different and without the facts. Those facts were of course brought up eventually and he was acquitted of the crime.

We now jump forward nearly 250 years to Oslo, Norway. An attack, brutal in nature takes place and people immediately begin to point fingers. Given the nature of the attack, people immediately view it as an attack by a radical Muslim group. It had to be the extremist Islamists picking soft targets. Whom else could it be but them?

I would dare to say that all the world is slightly jaded due to the terrorism and threats for nearly ten plus years. But this wasn't an Islamist "death to the infidels" group. No, in-deed this was very reminiscent of the Timothy McVeigh bombing in Oklahoma City. I really dislike even giving credit or mention to McVeigh, but there it is.

Now we have Anders Behring Breivik standing accused of a twisted idea of hatred for Islamist ideas and terrorism. An odd way to hate terrorism with a terroristic act upon people. It is purely an act of violence against humanity, against innocent people. But our first conclusion was to blame the Islamic terrorists and they win the mind game this time.

We have to understand that most people of all faiths, cultures and places are pretty decent folks. They are trying to live a great life. They want the same things you and I want; food, shelter, clothing, love, peace, and children to carry on their legacy. And terrorism plays to the worst of human characteristics. It plays to our worst fears.

We have to fight terrorism not only with strength, but also with kindness. Kindness for the hearts and minds of those that terrorism chooses to recruit. We won't succeed by waging it at their level. As the American cartoon Dilbert says, "Never argue with an idiot. They drag you down to their level, then best you with experience." I contend if we lower ourselves to the level of terrorists, they will win that battle.

We need to keep the level higher and as I stated before, fight terrorism with strength where it occurs. But fight for the minds and hearts of everyone else. Let us not allow mob rule to take over our minds and actions. When chaos becomes the course of action, evil wins.

This is not the Pollyanna Principle but does take a positive route to confronting the negative. If we fight negativity with negativity, what are we left with? We are left only with negativity. A no-win result in my mind.

Life will continue to throw the extreme views of both ends of the spectrum at us. If we choose to live at either end we are doomed as humans. If we choose to find common ground and sanity in all of the noise, then life can be pretty great for all of us.

Looking Back To Today

"When we remember we are all mad, the mysteries disappear and life stands explained." -Mark Twain

Recently a friend posted a few pictures of our college days on Facebook. He, myself and several other folks spent a couple of years together at Peru State College in Nebraska. A diverse lot of fellows that somehow seemed to put most differences aside and had a really great time.

Seeing the pictures started pulling on my strings of reminiscence. So off to the attic to pull out the worn pages and pictures of days gone by. Let me tell you it was a wonderful journey back in time. It was a view back that made me wonder how I had made it this far. It was also a view that explained exactly how I reached this wonderful point in life.

As I looked through the pages of old newspapers and pictures, I felt the ground beneath my feet. The path I was creating came from mistakes, success, boredom, shear terror and blind boldness. The cobblestones were laid out in front of me with friends and family. The journey was given to me by my faith.

It is easy to look at our life today and wonder if we made the right choices. It becomes easy to doubt what we did. But if you look back at the proving grounds of your past, you may find that life was simply teaching you how to live.

I remember the time shown in the picture above. We were young and ambitious College Student Activity Council kids. One of the hot regional bands was a group called Cricket. They had the greatest sound and energy one could expect and we had them for an early school year performance. An outdoor concert that requires all of the crazy logistics one could imagine. I'm not sure I even got to enjoy it and how a bunch of 19-year old kids pulled it off is beyond me.

So yes, you look back and wonder at how mad we were. But the mystery of whom we are now begins to disappear. We were simply trying to figure out our lives and learning about life along the way. Those experiences have brought us to where we are today. And I am happy for having gone through all of it.

It also excites me for what the next fifty years will bring. What will I look back to and see how the road was built. Will you look back and marvel at your own journey? Of course you will. Once you do, then look forward and envision the road you will take. That road is yours to take.

There is greatness to your life that makes all you have gone through well worth it. There is greatness to come in your life for you to pursue.

The Fire Inside

"Success isn't a result of spontaneous combustion. You must set yourself on fire." -Arnold H. Glasow

I have heard it said that when there's nothing left to burn, you have to set yourself on fire. You can't wait for others to come along each time to light it for you. There needs to be a mechanism from within that you can use to re-ignite your passion.

Too many times we run out of steam in our pursuit of our best life. The road can become long and weary. There are those moments when it can feel like the struggle isn't worth the effort. This becomes your signal to re-fuel, to re-stoke the fire within.

The keys are to look at your goals again and tell yourself how great its going to be once you achieve them. Then pick up something inspirational to read such as the Bible, or self-help books written by motivational authors or maybe even mine. But find the words that inspire and motivate you. Find the words that lift you up and remind you that all is truly possible.

This is also the moment that people with negative personalities will seem to suddenly appear. They are usually the first on scene, like firemen that have come to put out your fire completely. In this particular case, you need to avoid those people. Move as far away from them as you can.

Get yourself around people that will help you keep those embers burning. The positive kind of people that will help you collect and add fuel to that fire. They will be the kind of people that help you protect that fire.

Keep the fire burning for your dreams, visions, and goals. Never give up on yourself.

Breath of Air

"The time to relax is when you don't have time for it." -Sydney J. Harris

This has been one of those stressful weeks at work. It has been filled with the angst of understanding a problem and how to fix it. It also involves how to relay that information to another person to help them understand.

I get reminded by people that I need to read my own blog articles from time to time. That is because I am human just like everyone else. I get frustrated, stressed, down, and generally bent out of shape at times. What matters is how I or you recover from those episodes.

In actuality, it is very much like swimming, or learning how to swim. You can get very flustered and begin thrashing about in the water. That is the moment in time that most experts will tell you to just relax.

In fact you could take the following three tips on learning to swim for most any stressful situation.

1. Understand how breathing works and how it's related to every move you make in the water (life). How could you think about anything else first?

2. Next is to relax a bit because you now understand how breathing works. Your relaxed body will learn basic swim strokes (refocus).

3. Throughout all this, to repeat; you won't worry so much about breathing because you already understand how to get your air (balance and focus).

Simply put, step back and relax and most importantly - breathe.