Baking Up A Great Year-end

"Be happy with what you have and are, be generous with both, and you won't have to hunt for happiness." -William E. Gladstone

On a recent trip back to where I grew up, I had an opportunity to visit with family and friends. The town that I spent my early years is small in size but huge in heart. I guess you could say that of most any place, but it seems more so as these are the places I was a young boy.

My sister Pam took me out for coffee with her friends on a Saturday morning. The bakery in downtown Fremont is small, nice and comfy with the smells of fresh baked rolls and pastries. Alotta Brownies sits in the three hundred block of north Main Street. Just the sound of saying "Main Street" brings back wonderful memories. The conversation, coffee and cinnamon rolls pulled those moments from the back of my mind. If you ever happen through Fremont, Nebraska; take a moment to stop in and indulge your memories.

It was very shortly after the coffee and memories that I received a text message from my daughter Sarra. She was checking with me to ensure that I was going to make my annual Christmas batch of fudge. Why of course I am and somehow it has become traditional for me to do so.

I would really like to tell you that my fudge is the best in the world, top class and the thing that bakery chefs long to create. The fudge is typically good enough and I never seem to use the same recipe each year. I'm not creating a great fudge, that is for sure.

What I am recreating each year though is a tradition. It is something that will bring back memories for future generations when they smell fudge being made. When they wander into a bakery somewhere on their travels, a traditional memory will come flooding home to them. It will become a waypost in time as they make their way through life.

This time of year and in fact throughout the year, create traditions for those around you. These will be the lasting moments and memories that make the day easier. They are "you" living on within the hearts of others in the many years that will follow you.

And since tomorrow is Christmas Eve that will flow into Christmas Day, I want to wish all of my family, my sons, daughters, father, brothers, sister, in-laws and friends a Merry Christmas. There are those gone before us that I remember on these days as well; to all of them I have fond memories of many great past Christmas days.

And to you my friends out there, the happiest of Christmas Days and a safe holiday season. Stay inspired my friends.

A Void of Loneliness

"Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty." -Mother Teresa

Yesterday I wrote nothing, I posted nothing and nothing was read on that day. It was a day meant to spark a feeling of "missing" something in your daily routine. When you are used to having words to hear from someone else, not having that creates a void.

There are thousands upon thousands of people in our world that are alone this holiday season. Some are by their own choice. Others are simply alone due to circumstance. Many are by themselves due to death, divorce, or any of a number reasons.

Two things can happen which will fill the void of loneliness this holiday season. The emptiness can be filled throughout the year. It can change "two lives" in the blink of an eye. And it starts with simply connecting with each other. By simply acknowledging others around us, sharing a smile, saying hello or Merry Christmas. A spark of warmth will light a fire that chases the cold loneliness away.

If you are that person feeling lonely, there are tips and ideas to get you moving. One such tip is to "stop being lonely by reaching out to people." Pretty simple and probably easier said than done. In an article by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen, this one tip about basic human contact starts to break down loneliness.

Laurie says that something as simple as chatting with the barista in a coffee shop can help with separation loneliness. It is connecting with others that slowly dissolves and brings you into a great new world. there are other tips in the article, but as I started out, it starts with connection.

Those of you that are not lonely can also have an impact on the lonely. It begins by reaching out to others you normally wouldn't. Again, its about making connections and can start with just a small gesture. In an article on the subject of loneliness, it indicates that a small gesture (an offhand invitation to lunch), is often the better antidote. A simple connection, a simple act of kindness extended into the void of someone's loneliness will begin to fill their life.

Loneliness comes in many different forms and becomes very heightened during a holiday season. The weight of feeling lonely can be crushing and the only way to lift it is with two people. A connection is made and things begin to change.

Don't let another holiday pass by in a void of loneliness. Fill it with connections and AVoid loneliness in your life.

Stay inspired my friends.

Families Made Of Love

"The family is one of nature's masterpieces." -George Santayana

Yes, the last 50 years have seen a huge rise in divorce with the U.S. having the highest of any industrialized nation. Cohabitation rather than marriage, "blended" families of both gay and heterosexual design, and children born out of wedlock are common these days.

But regardless of what the family looks like today, how you live and nuture each other within the confines of that matter greatly. We each have defined roles that determine the structure of each family. The parents, the children and the love that exists within are the things that make a family.

We may not have as many "traditional" families as once there were, but families can still exist and do in many of the different forms. As long as there is love, respect and nuturing within those walls, the family will continue to exist.

As I returned from visiting my siblings and father, it has made me think about these words. We grew up in a traditional family and around non-traditional families. My wife and children make up the strings of a blended family that bind together a family put together by a marriage after divorce. We are a family many would consider oddly formed, but it is solid and filled with love.

Both types of family units have taught me quite a bit about life, about raising children, and about the love that binds us together. With love we can and do overcome the squabbles, the hurt feelings, and any other obstacles that get in the way. It is love that fills the voids and makes a family what it is.

So as you gather with your own family, make love the greatest part of your gathering. Hug each other. Say "I love you" to each other. Love the moments no matter what type of family you have.

Almost There

"We're almost there and nowhere near it. All that matters is we're going." -Gilmore Girls

One final week before Christmas, one final push towards the finish line of accomplishment. Its near, you can almost feel the warmth of the fireplace, the smell of hot cider and excitement of the Christmas lights. The anticipation grows and fills every pore in our bodies with excitement.

While we move towards our destination, remember that the journey is meant to be exciting as well.

Stay inspired my friends.