Love Attitude

"An attitude is a hypothetical construct that represents an individual's degree of like or dislike for something. Attitudes are generally positive or negative views of a person, place, thing, or event— this is often referred to as the attitude object. People can also be conflicted or ambivalent toward an object, meaning that they simultaneously possess both positive and negative attitudes toward the item in question." -Wikipedia definition

What is your attitude regarding love? Is it a positive view or a negative one? Do you really have a clear view as to what love is?

For most anything that you want to achieve in your life, will require an examination of your own attitudes. If you have a tendency to be negative about possibility in life, you need to change that. If you give weight to past problems when trying something new, you need to change that.

If you want to know how powerful love can be in your life, you have to be willing to change your attitude. You have to learn a new way of understanding what love is. Once you do, it can work great things in your life and the lives of those around you.

Start believing in yourself, change your attitude with action and realize the power of love in your life.

And stay inspired my friends.

Love Is on this day

Today I bring back a favorite post of mine as it reminds me of the love my mother and father had for me, my family and for others. It reminds me that love is our life.

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January 18, 2012

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Love Is a Googly-Eyed Frog

"A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge." -Thomas Carlyle

As I continue to promote my new book "Love Is", I thought I would share some insight into the googly-eyed frog from the book. The picture I use is not of the actual art creation I made back in Kindergarten. I certainly wish it was but alas, you will have to read the book to find out why I do not have the original in my possession.

You see over my many years, I have always had the urge to be an artist. Raphael, de Goya, Monet, and Dali to name a few. There are so many others that I have come to enjoy over the years. Even in my earliest years, I felt a connection to the art one could make. I believe it is because art gave me a window to other possibilities in life.

The physical act of producing art was to me, an extension of one's imagination. A window into one's heart and soul where that imagination is birthed. And my googly-eyed frog was the earliest form of my own imagination being revealed.

Alas, I never developed a decent talent for the arts although I have dabbled in it from time to time. Painting, acting, singing, architecture and design are the purview of others. Even so, I have always relished in being close to it. To watch and be amazed by those with artistic talents.

One might suppose that I didn't try hard enough or work on the craft enough. Yet I seemed to realize early on that the various arts tend to have a natural ability that flows from the individual. It is similar to athletic ability and the great athletes in history. No, I eventually accepted the fact that my talent lay elsewhere.

My mother helped me to understand where my talents were. My father helped to build my talents. And together they gave of themselves so that I could master what it is I do today. Each of them had a loving heart to guide me early on in life. It is a loving heart for others that matters quite a bit in life. That is what "Love Is".

I would appreciate if you pass along the word of my new book. I have it available both in paperback and in eBook formats. I feel it is important to understand what love is in order to have a great life. I believe that this book will change people lives for the better. I believe it will change your life for the better.

Love Is will take you on one man's journey to find out what love really is. It will explore his life, the stories of others, and take a close look at the greatest love story ever told. So open yourself to a different and very real way of understanding what love is. After reading this book, you will have found one of the greatest things in life, which is love.

And stay inspired my friends.

Love Is Available

"Where there is love there is life." -Mahatma Gandhi

Tomorrow is a day assigned to honor love. History books will give us many reasons and understandings as to how Valentine's Day came to be. What I do know is that Love Is the reason behind it.

Stay inspired my friends.

Who Do You Love

"The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That’s what I hope to give you forever." –The Notebook

This week is a week full of love as Valentine's Day approaches on Thursday, February 14th. It is a week in which our focus turns to the ones we love. We are reminded of why we first fell in love, of whom we love, our children, our parents and our God. It is a week in which we want to be loved and love others.

And while we will send cards and flowers, cute candy sayings and all forms of love's expressions, do we really understand what love is?

In my book Love Is, I examine what the true meaning of what love is. Can we experience love by only receiving it? Does love represent taking or giving? What do we truly obtain by accepting the power of what love can do in our lives?

There is something great packed into the words written in that book and as you will find out, words that will change your life and the way you think about love. What remains of our lives when all else is gone? If we take away possessions, notoriety and all of the other distractions that consume our life, what is always left in our life?

And it all reminds me to ask, "who do you love?"



Stay inspired my friends!

Happy Birthday Mom

"Oh happy day!" -Edwin Hawkins Singers

Happy Birthday Mom - you would have been 82 years old today in the natural. But please be assured you are 82 years old in my heart today. Love Joe

Almost

almost
Main Entry: al·most
Pronunciation: \ˈol-ˌmōst, ol-ˈ\
Function: adverb
Etymology: Middle English, from Old English ealmæst, from eall + mæst most
Date: before 12th century

: very nearly but not exactly or entirely

Yesterday, you almost called home to say hello to your mother. With a passing thought, you almost held a door open for someone carrying a package. Early this morning you almost had a conversation with your teenaged child. Those things that we almost do in life but never seem to find the urge to actually do.

Your day goes by, then a week and eventually the year is nearly over. We think back and wonder at all of those things we missed doing. We feel that we came close, that we almost had the ability to do all of those meaningful things. But in our own self assessment, we know that almost really wasn't quite good enough.

The analogies one can use vary with many examples how almost results in things lost. In sports it might be said, "we almost made the winning touchdown." Yet the team still lost so almost doesn't quite cut it. In a political race, others may state, "we almost won the election." And once again, almost does not put the person into office.

Take the idea of almost completing your high school education. Almost does not make it easy to find a job or move ahead in life. There is also the big one, "I almost called to say hello," or for others, "I almost called to say I love you." Life on earth is finite, and almost will turn into never being able to do those things.

Find the time today to actually do those things that you know and feel need to be done. Do not put them off any longer, take the time now. Do not almost try it, actually accomplish and look back on all of those things you did complete.

Stay inspired my friends!

Dan's Big Wheel Birthday

"The Edge... there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over." -Hunter S. Thompson

Just a Happy Birthday shout out to my son Dan Primm. We knew in 1985 that things would never be the same. You have brought great adventure, joy and love into all of our lives.

Be safe, be joyful and be loving on this wonderful day.

And just as a reminder....

Blow Thou Winter Wind

“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” ―Steve Maraboli

Only a few more days left in this year and for those in the northern hemisphere, winter's cold wind blows with a cold fierceness. It is a time when emotions can get the better of us. The lamentations of another year gone by can consume our thoughts of perceived failures.

It is easy to sit and question the wrongs we feel others may have exacted upon us. We can let past wrongs consume our future as the cold wind howls outside. Thoughts of how thankless and false love and friendship can be will creep into our minds. It seems as if all life is made up of human ingratitude.

We pull our coats tight in order to fight the winter winds. But the idea that people can be thankless is worse than the harshness of that same winter wind. We allow these thoughts to take over and debilitate us.

What should never be forgotten is that life is worth living. One should move forward, be happy, forgive and forget the failings of others. Forgive your own failings.

Shift your thinking and your world will shift for the better.

Blow, Blow, Thou Winter Wind
by William Shakespeare

Blow, blow, thou winter wind,
Thou art not so unkind
As man's ingratitude;
Thy tooth is not so keen
Because thou art not seen,
Although thy breath be rude.
Heigh-ho! sing heigh-ho! unto the green holly:
Most friendship is feigning, most loving mere folly:
Then, heigh-ho! the holly!
This life is most jolly.
Freeze, freeze, thou bitter sky,
Thou dost not bite so nigh
As benefits forgot:
Though thou the waters warp,
Thy sting is not so sharp
As friend remember'd not.
Heigh-ho! sing heigh-ho! unto the green holly:
Most friendship is feigning, most loving mere folly:
Then, heigh-ho! the holly!
This life is most jolly.

Stay inspired my friends!

Where Love Resides

"When you love you should not say, "God is in my heart," but rather, "I am in the heart of God." -Kahlil Gibran

There is one week to go before we celebrate the Christmas holiday. A time of celebration and good cheer. It is a time of new birth and new beginning, a gift for all of time to mankind.

Through out the year we experience pain, heartache and disappointment. But as the year draws near to a close, Christmas provides us with the promise of love. And love is many things but mostly love is being in the heart of God.

There are many things that have occurred lately and have happened all year long. The one thing that remains, that can heal, is love. I wrote of the power of love in my book Love Is. It is a very simple concept that can be very hard to understand. Maybe that is because we over think and over analyze it.

Yet in the end when all else is stripped away. When all the money, power, ego, possessions, humility and life itself are gone; love can endure and heal us.

May your Christmas holiday, you New Year celebrations, and everything around you be filled with love. And not only during these next two weeks, but throughout the coming years.

Stay inspired my friends.

Sylvia Alter

"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal." -Irish saying

I begin this week with a story of loss. It is a story that many people go through daily, but each has impact on an individual basis. It impacts people when you may not even realize it. The person down the hall at work, the lady at the grocery check out, or the driver in front of you on the freeway.

Each of them and so many others are impacted by the death of someone close. I am one of those in that I lost my Aunt Sylvia. Her children, Diana and Rick along with grand children, relatives, friends and many others are feeling a loss today. Each of them are experiencing a void in their life.

My Aunt Sylvia lived in Sioux City, Iowa; often referred to as Siouxland. It is a place that marks the general area that my American ancestors lived, worked and played. Aunt Sylvia called it home and it is where her children were born and raised. The place where a home was created and all that knew her felt the love which embodied her.

Like my own mother, Aunt Sylvia was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Time would not be on her side and it took her rather quickly. We can each empathize with family. But it did give them a chance to grab hold of those remaining days. It allowed them to create some final memories filled with love, forgiveness and hope.

My sympathies go out to her family, my prayers go out to them and for Aunt Sylvia. My happiness for her now is undeniable, her place is happy and filled with love. No pain, no sorrow, no worry is her reward. She can look peacefuly down upon all of us and smile.

When the time of her passing and funeral begin to fade away, the loving memories of her will grow. I know it, I believe and I live it each day with the passing of my mother. Be assured that those memories will fill you with greater love and the pain will ease away.

We love you Aunt Sylvia; always have and always will. Thank you for having been in my life.

Love Forever

"Love is all we have; the only way that each can help the other." -Euripides

Valentines Day is over. The flowers still have crispness and sweet aroma remaining. Wonderfully worded cards expressing unending love lay upon the counter. Chocolates and champagne, maybe balloons and gifts are the signs of love expressed.

What will happen as the days begin to grow wider between this day and the next? Will you remain firmly in love and express that love? Will you work to sustain your love?

The good news is that love, real love, is truly forever. It is ours to give in unending quantity. It remains within our reach to give in unselfish ways and get replenished the more we let it flow from our heart. Love has been here even before the Flintstones. Love has been here before any of us even knew what love was for.

Keep working on your relationships. Keep showing your love, giving your love and see how sustainable love will be in your life. As the days grow in number after Valentines Day, keep that feeling alive.

Stay inspired and in love my friends.

Valentines In Your Eyes

"I hope some day to meet God, because I want to thank Him for the flowers." -Robert Brault

Today is the day of pretty flowers, of chocolates and loving cards. Today is the day you get to renew your love for all that is in your life.

Shakespeare's 18th Sonnet

Shall I compare thee to a summer's day?
Thou art more lovely and more temperate:
Rough winds do shake the darling buds of May,
And summer's lease hath all too short a date:
Sometime too hot the eye of heaven shines,
And often is his gold complexion dimm'd;
And every fair from fair sometime declines,
By chance or nature's changing course untrimm'd;
But thy eternal summer shall not fade
Nor lose possession of that fair thou owest;
Nor shall Death brag thou wander'st in his shade,
When in eternal lines to time thou growest:
So long as men can breathe or eyes can see,
So long lives this and this gives life to thee.

So to my loving wife Laura, for me Love Is in your eyes.



Stay inspired and loving my friends.

Lessons in Love

“Enjoy the process. In the middle of this is where everything happens.” -Dean Sweetman

In my new book called LOVE IS describes my journey to discover what real love is. I also take a look at other couple in history and their story of love. There are also chapters that examine the greatest love story ever told. So in my efforts to help you learn what real love is, I am including bits and pieces of my book in various blog articles.

In the chapter titled "If I Speak", my days in college turned out to be a mixed bag of discovery. I see failure in the form of not completing my degree and hard lessons learned regarding how to handle different situations. But I also see success in what turned out to be a path to having four wonderful boys and a great career.

So here is an excerpt from my book, LOVE IS.

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The year’s in-between high school and my sister’s death slowly began to have love take hold of me. There were moments of learning and false starts. Even as I graduated from high school, there were still those selfish feelings of “why didn’t I receive more from the high school experience.” No scholarships, no girl friend, no shouts of encouragement or job well done. This caused me to harden my resolve that I would have to do it all on my own. That is not exactly what love is all about and it would continue to take time for the learning process to develop. So off to college I went with a self-centered ambition in mind to succeed on my own terms and that is how I left those early years behind.

Peru State College in Peru, Nebraska would prove to be the application, right or wrong, of those lessons that were building up inside of me. I would enter college with the initial purpose of separating myself from my high school days. I was determined to build a new life on my own terms. College brings new possibility to everything. There are new people, new surroundings and new challenges to conquer. I set out to achieve everything I could by myself since it seemed no one else wanted to be part of my life. It all turned out good and I learned new lessons in life and love even though I was a slow learner.

I jumped into college full steam ahead, becoming involved in many different adventures. There was of course the standard class schedule, much of which I quickly lost control of. This was due to the fact I was becoming heavily involved in many of the other college activities. There was student government, plays to act in, art classes to take and of course parties to attend. It was a collision course with failure to earn a degree that I didn’t see coming.

There were many other successes that came out of my college attendance. I became the Student Body President and also an appointed Student Representative to the State College Board of Trustees. I learned the dos and the don’ts of representative government. I failed miserably at some of my work but succeeded in others. There were people I met along the way that were good and some not so good. All of time I was trying to it all by myself in what I later viewed as righteous indignation.

My love life was on a very slow track as well. It seemed I was falling back into old habits from high school. There were advances and there were a couple of girls that I dated, both of which taught me different lessons about love. There was heartache on my part in never being able to develop a relationship with one. And the other there was heartache on her part when I broke off our relationship. I cannot remember enough to tell you why either relationship failed, but I would say my lack of understanding what love really meant contributed to it. As my relationship with these two women failed, so did my classroom studies. As I transitioned into my second year of college, there was still hope of success in continuing my education.

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I firmly believe that we are constantly on a journey to find the full potential of love. Love is and can be a very powerful force in our life. I would suggest that once you learn the basic tenets of what LOVE IS, it will focus your own journey and make it more enjoyable.

Enjoy my new book folks and as always, stay inspired.

Love of Flowers

"A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love." -Max Muller

In my book Love Is, you will find a section regarding the biological significance upon love. There are very particular sections of the brain that light up when love is present. The things we do, the external stimuli spark these regions of the brain. They also produce various chemicals and reactions. You can read my book to understand more of what I am talking about.

An interesting thing to note about research of the brain relative to love is that scientists are looking at pills that they say romantic love could theoretically be simulated with chemicals. They also say that how to get relationships back in order, you should engage in those behaviors that stimulate the release of these chemicals and allow them to stimulate your emotions. These behaviors of course would be hugging, kissing, and intimate contact.

In the larger sense of biological reasons and how much further scientists have to go to understand what love is, one said it best. He said, “My wife tells me that flowers work as well. I don’t know for sure.” He then said, “As a scientist it’s hard to see how it stimulates the circuits, but I do know they seem to have an effect. And the absence of them seems to have an effect as well.”

Love is a powerful force that can be given of oneself. This force will enter that person's body, brain, heart and soul, filling them and causing the reactions scientists have found. But you knew it all along.

Fill the lives of others with love and see what happens. You will find love coming back ten-fold, filling your own life, stimulating your own brain and making your life the best life.

Stay inspired my friends.

Unending Opportunity

"The world is all gates, all opportunities, strings of tension waiting to be struck." -Ralph Waldo Emerson

We have all seen them at various times in our life. It might be in the middle of the night when we can't sleep so we turn on the television. They even creep into full page advertisements in your favorite magazine or newspaper. What I am referring to are those "opportunities of a lifetime" announcements.

Act now they scream out loudly. "Money making franchise opportunity of the century." "A 150 billion dollar business." "Big money in your spare time." The pitch is that this opportunity won't last much longer, so dial that number now.

And I guess the numbers can't be wrong. Infomercials, direct-response TV marketing as it's formally known, are expected to rise to a record $174 billion, by 2014, according to Yoram Wurmser of Direct Marketing Assn. So there are a lot of people jumping at the opportunity that isn't supposed to last.

Their marketing pitch is pretty powerful to say the least. Something else that is pretty powerful is love. Love is not an opportunity that is a limited time offer. Love is an opportunity that is never ending.

As I wrote in my book Love Is, "love is eternal." It is never-ending, unchanging and can never run empty. You have no way of using up or consuming all of God’s love. There is no fuel gauge on that love, no gas station in which to fill back up with more love. It is there, always and overflowing in your life.

So take the opportunity to find and know how powerful love can be in your own life. It is a great thing to have and will help you achieve your best life. Stay inspired my friends.

Mile High Love

"Helping someone is what life is all about." -Willie Stargell

The stories are written everyday, in the back pages of the newspapers and the collective memories of those present. The doom and gloom headlines overshadow with words of destruction and mayhem. The killings and crimes, the sensational and hate shout out at us from all angles.

But these other stories are those of good works, of people stepping forward in love. They are the stories you catch in the corner of the page, next to the local jamboree fair. Most of these stories only get read on the third or fourth reading pass of the newspaper.

Many people will never see this story and in this particular case, it took place at 35,000 feet in the air. It was to be a simple business flight from Atlanta to Boston. Early on a Monday morning and all was going well. The State of Virginia was passing beneath us when the call came out over the intercom.

Was there a doctor, paramedic or nurse on board the plane? Was there anyone in the cabin containing 186 people have the ability to help with a medical emergency? In most cases there always seems to be a doctor close by, but not this time.

The elderly lady had fainted and was now having a hard time breathing. Assistance was needed quickly and the Flight Attendants were doing their best. And then the familiar "bong" noise of someone's Call Button being lit up. We had someone that knew something about medical assistance.

This woman was a nurse if I heard correctly. She knew something of medical conditions and how to assist someone in need. So from her middle seat she sprang the five or six rows to where the elderly lady lay on the floor.

For several minutes a flurry of activity took place. Several minutes more went by and you could see the relief beginning to fill the faces of those around. Eventually she recovered from her affliction and was sitting up in a seat, in good enough shape to chat with those around her.

The nurse had done what was right and what came natural to her. But just having the ability, the training, the talent wasn't enough to spring her into action. It was love of a fellow human being, a self-less act that probably saved a life. In fact, it was love that saved a life.

Love is powerful in many ways and love in this case saves lives.

Tim Tebow Is

"Love stretches your heart and makes you big inside." - Margaret Walker

Mark, a good friend of mine, sent me the following article not too long ago. Its an article written by ESPN sports columnist Rick Reilly. It is titled, I believe in Tim Tebow and is a must read to understand what giving of oneself, what inspiration and what perspective on life is.

There are varied opinions on Tim Tebow and the whole effect he is having on the National footbal League and amongst viewers. A term called Tebowing has even created lots of discussion between people. Each of us can have an opinion but I want to get beyond the outward view people have.

What I am looking at is inward, to what is truly going on inside of this person called Tim Tebow. I also want to see how we can use it as an example of living our lives in respect to others.

Forget the kneeling, forget the "thanking God" statements and forget that he may not be the most talented professional quarterback in football. Look to what he does with his abilities in helping others outside of his professional career. Look to what he gives, which is himself.

The real power of love is in being able to give so freely and courageously of oneself. The true nature of love is to let that love pour from you into the lives of others.

Love is in fact the greatest gift you have been given and the greatest gift you can give to others. Love is inspiring.

All I Ask Of You

"All that love asks for is love." -Joseph A. Primm

That's all He asks of you...love that is, (page 55).

Stay inspired my friends.

Love Is

Love Is by Joseph A Primm

I would like to announce the release of my fourth book called "Love Is" and give you a little taste of the book. As you probably noticed, the book came out just in time for Valentines Day. It would make a great gift for a loved one or even yourself. I say that because the book is all about love and how powerful it can be in your life.

Most people will tend to seek the advice of experts such as Dr. Joyce Brothers or maybe even columnist Ann Landers. They will buy a wide variety of books, videos and listen to radio programs to find answers relating to love. Many will turn to the advice of friends. We use the advice of friends for a wide range of topics because we trust them. Even though the advice may not always be the best, we understand that a trusted friend has our best interests in mind.

There is another place, a book, that many people forget to turn to which provides advice on sex, marriage, friends, and a big one called money. This book has been a source of advice to millions of people for well over two thousand years. And the great thing about it? It also talks about love.

My new book will take you on one man's journey to understand what love is. I will tell you stories of other great love through out history. And I will take you to the book I refer to above and explain the greatest story ever told of love. It is a story that is well known and contains a definitive explanation about the power of love.

Love is everything that you have gone through and will go through in life. To understand love and grasp what it can do in your life is quite frankly, "life changing."

So order one today for yourself, your loved ones and anyone else that could use a little help in understanding the true meaning of love. Thank you for your support and stay inspired my friends.

Remembering a Brother

"No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it's not the same river and he's not the same man." -Heraclitas

It was on January 4, 2011 that my brother John passed away. It was a day that came as a sudden and unexpected life event. It was a day that changed so much in the life of his wife Karin, son Taylor and daughters Ali and Liz. It also changed the lives of many people in his adopted hometown of Gillette, Wyoming.

Even though life changed that day for everyone that knew my brother, each of us hold the memories of life with him. We replay those moments in which he entered, impacted and moved through our days.

So while we "nor the river" are the same for having encountered John, each of us can hold tight the memories in our heart. In my life, I will always remember and love him. So it is that I delight in listening to the music my brother John loved so much. It was not the only type, genre or group, but one that he did enjoy.

Stay inspired my friends.